You must constantly ask yourself these questions: Who am I around? What are they doing to me? What have they got me reading? What have they got me saying? Where do they have me going? What do they have me thinking? And most importantly, what do they have me becoming? Then ask yourself the big question, Is that okay?
But a wise woman in the town [of Abel] called out to Joab, 'Listen to me, Joab. Come over here so I can talk to you.' As he approached, the woman asked, 'Are you Joab?' 'I am,' he replied. So she said, 'Listen carefully to your servant.' 'I’m listening,' he said.
2 Samuel 20:16-17
The life of King David was one replete with divine drama and human complexity. The anointed king and shepherd of Israel faced not only external threats but also profound domestic storms.
From the heights of his triumphs to the depths of his personal failings with Bathsheba and Uriah, David’s journey was marked by both divine favour and chastisement. The repercussions of his actions rippled through his family, culminating in Absalom's rebellion. Even after Absalom’s fall, the embers of conflict continued to smoulder, leading to the revolt of Sheba, son of Bichri.
It is within this landscape of unrest that the wise woman of Abel emerges, a testament to the enduring power of godly wisdom amidst chaos. When Joab, the commander of David's troops, lays siege to her city in pursuit of Sheba, this unnamed woman confronts him with a blend of courage and discernment. Her actions are not impulsive but measured, reflecting a wisdom that is uncommon in the natural realm.
She demonstrates an understanding of the broader implications of her city's destruction and skillfully negotiates for peace, recognising the value of a single life over the potential ruin of many. The wise woman's negotiation tactics reveal her profound sense of responsibility and stewardship, serving as a guidepost for leadership and conflict resolution. By saving Abel, she not only preserves the physical city but also upholds the sanctity of God's covenant with Israel.
Her prudence, humility in approach, willingness to speak up for her people, and ability to discern the true heart of the conflict display a wisdom that does not sow seeds of division but cultivates unity and righteousness. Her story is a striking reminder that wisdom, often displayed in quiet, unassuming figures, holds the power to avert destruction and guide people back to the path of peace.
The actions and impact of the woman of Abel reflect that she possessed the wisdom from above, as described in James 3:17. Her actions were pure, peace-loving, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere. Her story echoes the truth of James 3:18, that those who sow in peace will reap a harvest of righteousness.
The wise woman of Abel stands as a beacon, showing us that when faced with insurmountable odds, it is the wisdom from above—embodied in peace-loving actions and gentle words—that can diffuse strife, turn tides of vengeance into rivers of justice, and bring forth the fruit of righteousness.
Her story, while brief in scripture, leaves an enduring legacy on the importance of embracing divine wisdom to confront challenges, navigate life's complexities, and restore harmony in the face of destruction.
Today, we are challenged to reflect on our lives and assess whether we have embraced the godly wisdom that is accessible to us in Christ. Are we demonstrating it in our spheres? Are we surrounded by and raising people of similar virtue? If we lack this godly wisdom in any area of our lives, all we need to do is ask God.